About Men and Love in General

In my experience with men, there are only three reasons they would ignore you - if they're distracted, if they're angry with you, but especially if something's weighing on their minds.

Why am I blogging about men today instead of writing or something more interesting (although let's be honest, you all love reading about men and what goes through their minds)? Because it's the only thing that's been on my mind all week.

Almost everyone has problems with their relationships, whether you're in love or not. It's humanly impossible for someone not to have problems in a relationship, small or big, whether they show or not. But it's up to you to decide whether they stay or not. Unfortunately, you don't get to decide whether they stay big or small. Small problems pile up and become colossal, and big problems become stories high.

Even though the picture is funny, the statement it makes is the same. If you let the problems get too high, and you break up, this is the result. This is also the result of too many highs in the relationship. They build up, and when a problem hits, you fall straight down into a pit. This is exactly why most relationships don't last. There's no balance. There are either too many problems, or too many highs. Highs aren't necessarily a bad thing, and I'm not saying you should start an argument on purpose for the sake of your relationship (because believe me, that's not a good idea - imagine your partner finding out you wanted to anger him on purpose). But you should definitely consider whether your relationship would be strong enough to stand through the hard times, because there will be hard times.

Too many problems... is there ever such a thing? Hell yeah. Most relationships are repairable if both people are willing to work at it. But a lot of people are pretty selfish, and selfishness only makes people bitter when they don't get what they want. This is probably why there are so many divorces and break ups. Some people just aren't a great fit, most people aren't actually in love in the first place. That might seem like a really arrogant statement to make, and it might make you think I'm one of those people who don't believe love exists (and believe me, the people that don't would probably agree with that statement), but I'm not arrogant or faithless. I have my own boyfriend and yes, I am in love. But there are a lot of people who try to define love, or mistake love for something else. You just have to know, if you're in love.

There are a lot of symptoms of love, and no one symptom is the same. There's always one give away though - you just know, without any doubts.

So that's my two cents, this might have been a really controversial post, but I want to know what you think. Do you believe in love? What's your definition, if any (and I hope you won't try to give it a definition if you don't have one)? Are you in love with someone, or just crushing (big difference!)? Comments welcome!