When people think of geeks or nerds, they think of the kid with the thick glasses sitting alone with his school books and lunch in the middle school cafeteria, or the kid who spends most of his time playing old school video games. But geeks is, by definition, a broad spectrum of people. People who do well in school, people who have a passion for a particular subject, people who are bullied for the things they do. Or, if you want to stretch it this further and be one of the bullies, people who are hygenically challenged (although let's be honest, who isn't at some point of their life?).
And most of the time, we don't imagine them with boyfriends or girlfriends, typically because as a stereotype, they're socially awkward. I suppose this is because most geeks don't have the confidence of others, and girls just prefer manly confidence; being a girl, I know this to be true. But geeks don't have to be a part of a stereotype. In fact, I very much prefer not to bunch them all together and label them. Every person is different, including geeks. Some geeks fit the stereotype in some way, and some don't. I have a boyfriend who is half and half. He shows passion for video games, acting on stage or in film, or funny things on the internet. Unlike most stereotypes, he's far from socially awkward. In fact, he's probably one of the most sociable people you'll ever meet, while still be calm and collected.
I'm not a typical geek either, but it's also why me and him fit so well together. When he doesn't know what to say, I do. And vice versa. I get excited about every cool new gadget I hear about, even more so if I get my hands on it. I'm not particularly shy, but I am clumsy. I'm probably the bubbliest person you'll ever meet. I rarely ever get into arguments with anyone.
Most nerds would kill to have a girlfriend like me, wouldn't they? Well, despite what you're thinking, I'm not full of myself. In fact, I have no idea why my boyfriend chose me in the first place. Apparently my geekery is sexy to him. And hell, why wouldn't it be, when he's a geek too?
The real question here then, isn't whether the stereotypical geek, with a love of technology, and his girlfriend are a good match for each other, but whether geeks in general CAN, in fact, find their place in the world to geek out all they want, amazing girlfriend and all. And the answer is - YES! Geeks of all shapes and sizes and mentalities certainly can find out what's right for them and determine the best way to get there. They can have sexy, smart girlfriends they get along with, day in and day out. It's just a matter of overcoming a lack of confidence that you can get that. Easier said than done, I'm afraid, but we'll get around to how to build up your own confidence, especially through a stream of rejections.
So join me in this journey of technology and love, and we'll learn a lot on the way. Comments welcome!
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